I have a 22 year old son who came out as gay a few years ago. I’m not going to lie, it was very hard on my husband. He’s not a hateful person but we do love in a bubble and it’s not something he ever thought he’d be faced with. He did his best to make sure that our son never knew how hard it was on him and he was nothing but supportive. Still I’m sure my son knew that it wasn’t what his father wanted to hear.
So far he’s introduced us to two boyfriends and we had no problem with either of them, so this isn’t about seeing him with a man. Well he has a new boyfriend, Jonathan, who I find obnoxious but I’ve been trying to bite my tongue. The other day Jonathan and my son came over to hang out by the pool.
My husband disliked Jonathan and he doesn’t do much to hide it and Jonathan finds my husband too conservative and has made remarks. My husband was laying on a pool chair and asked me to rub more sunscreen on his back and Jonathan did it because he claims he thought it would be funny.
My husband told him to get the f**k out of our house and never touch him again and my son left without saying much. My son called me later and said he was hurt and he doesn’t know if he can forgive his father. I think he’s being unfair because I have a 19 year old daughter and if her boyfriend did that to me everyone would think it was bizarre and we had the right to kick them out. I told my son that not everything is about his sexuality and he hung up. Obviously I don’t have much perspective so was that an a**h**e thing to say?
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