People often forget that pregnancy and childbirth may be perilous at times. This is true for both the mother and the kid. There are times in life when someone must make a difficult decision on who to keep alive during birth. There are no simple solutions. But, regardless of your choice, everyone is eager to pass judgement. In this story a mother was judged for her decision. Read the story and let us know what you think about it.
Source: Reddit
So my daughter was born 2 years ago, I had a very good pregnancy but developed gestational diabetes at 32 weeks (due to me being overweight I was checking my sugar levels every other day). Due to this my OBGYN scheduled a cesarean. I didn’t have any issues with this, I just wanted my baby to be born safely. So before going into the hospital I talked with my husband that if something were to happen and he needed to choose between myself and our baby to please choose me. He got quiet but said that he agreed and that please let my mother know about what we talked about.
Everything went according to plan and both of us were completely fine.
Now fast forward to now trying for number two and in a Christmas party with my girlfriends the topic was brought up about babies. There’s another friend that is also trying so the topic of conversation was on that for a good hour.
When my friend asked me if I was ready for another 9 months of pregnancy and how I felt. I answer truthfully cause honestly I was just letting all the fears and doubts go.
I said that I do want another baby and that pregnancy doesn’t scare me such as giving birth again. I said that I straight told my husband again that I’m scared that something may happen to me during the birth and in the hopes of giving my daughter a sibling I could leave her without a mother. That the original agreement stands says that he needs to choose me if that’s the case.
My friends were disgusted with my thinking and said that I was a Jerk to my husband in asking him to basically kill his baby (those were the exact words), that I was a very negative person and that I needed to rethink my thoughts. I’m a person that likes to be prepared for the worst case scenario and hope for the best. I didn’t want my husband to be blindsided with who to choose and to have the answer on the spot. Nobody likes to think about what could go wrong especially in a pregnancy but I need to think about every possible case that we could encounter. So, I’m in the middle of a shitstorm and need some advice on if I’m wrong.
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