My (16f) school requires us to keep our cameras on during the entire class. If we need to use the restroom we are supposed to privately message our teacher and ask to leave. I have absolutely no issue with these rules as I understand that online teaching is hard and you have to make sure everyone is attentive during classes.
We also have this system where at the end of the week every student is emailed a google document in which we are supposed to type out any problems we had with the classes during the week (eg – a teacher is favouring a student etc..)
On Thursday, I had a math class which was taught by “Mr T”. He’s never really been very strict and has always seemed quite reserved and quiet. Of course, I’ve never been in a lesson with him outside of online school so I can’t really judge.
During the class I realized I had started my period. I privately messaged Mr T asking if I could use the restroom. I waited for 10 minutes but he didn’t reply so I messaged him again, still no reply. By now I was getting extremely uncomfortable so I texted him for the third time explaining I had started my period and I really had to go.
He replies with this, “You should have planned better. Learn to control yourself” uhhh… What? I CAN’T control my period. I tried to explain that I couldn’t but he didn’t respond.
I got annoyed and switched off my camera anyway and left for the bathroom. Once I came back, I saw that he had kicked me out of the meeting. I later found out that he had written to me for switching off my camera and I was given a warning. I was pissed.
Since it was a Thursday I received the google doc and I complained about Mr T in it.
Today (Tuesday) I found out, through my mother, who is also a teacher, that Mr. T is being investigated as there have been multiple complaints about his behavior and mine was apparently the last straw.
My dad, brother and a few of my friends are calling me an a**h**e as I could’ve just waited for a while instead of complaining and potentially making a man lose his job, especially during this time.
I do feel really guilty now. I don’t want him to lose his job. Am I really An AH.
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