Naming a baby is very important for every parent. Parents get down and debate the name they will give their newborn kid, ultimately selecting the finest and most beautiful name. Read the story to know what happened between this couple and let us know how you would deal with the situation.
I (f23) recently had twins about 7 weeks ago. Me and their dad were engaged, planning on getting married, and did plan the pregnancy. He was the one who had really pushed the idea and convinced me, so when he decided to up and leave when I was about 14 weeks pregnant, it sucked. During my pregnancy, we had minimal contact, mainly around custody and a few requests on updates with the pregnancy. Surprisingly, he did fight for custody – to have 0%. He’ll have visitation and parental rights but that’s it.
The last time we talked before the babies were born, it was 3 days before my c-section. This was planned and he was aware of the date/location etc. The babies were in the NICU for 2 weeks and during this time he didn’t text or visit. Obviously you need to name your kids and so I ended up choosing them myself since we hadn’t gotten to that stage. I also gave them my last name since I’ll be the one to do appointments etc and raise them. From his lack of interest throughout pregnancy, I didn’t think he cared.
3 weeks after they were born and I’d taken them home, he rocks up. He asks what I named them and when I tell him, he said they don’t look like their names and the names are ‘stuck up’ names. He then says their names and his last name, but I corrected him and told him they’d taken my surname. He got pissed and it became a tense situation. He demanded I change their names, I said no. He told me to combine our last names, I said no.
I told him a parent that fights for 0% custody of their kids doesn’t show much concern or care about said kid, especially since there are no physical/mental etc reasons to not be able to parent. He told me I was unreasonable and unhinged, I told him that paying child support was the bare minimum and if he wanted a say in their names, he should’ve shown up/called when they were born and not waited 3 weeks to even ask what their own kids’ names were. Am I A Jerk?
What would you do in her situation? Any advice. Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: