A wife desires her husband’s support during the pregnancy time and most importantly labour time. The only person she would be comfortable with after the baby would be her husband. But what if the mother-in-law demands her to be the first person to hold the baby? How would you react to such a monster-in-law? Read the whole story and how would you handle the situation.
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When I f26 met my husband’s m34 mom I hoped for a healthy mother figure type relationship. She’s okayish; but she can be a little controlling given that my husband is her only child; she tends to act super protective of him.
When I got pregnant, MIL made a request to be the first person to hold my son after he’s born. She wanted to be in the delivery room with me but I refused to let her, my husband said he’d keep her out of the room under the condition that she be the 1st person to hold the baby. I didn’t agree but didn’t disagree as well. Just stayed silent.
The baby was born days ago. All my husband was worried about was having his mom be the 1st to meet the baby. but she was out of town attending a friend’s daughter’s wedding. He said she wouldn’t be back til 2 days later. Mom and sister already came to help and they held my son as they were helping me after my husband went back to work. I had no help and they were my go to.
MIL and my husband knew. they both went off and started throwing a fit saying that I betrayed her, and that I made a promise then broke it. My husband tried to get her to calm down after she came home lashing out, but she scolded us both then walked out. He blew up at me saying I screwed up and violated the agreement we had. I said that mom and sister were HELPING me out, and held the baby so what?
He got more pissed and claimed I had no respect for his mom and her wishes and told me that I hurt her feelings and ruined her grandbaby’s birth memory. I couldn’t keep arguing. He called me unbelievably selfish and demanded I fix my mistake but I wasn’t sure what he meant by that. Like redo the baby’s birth and have his mom be the first to hold him?. He didn’t like my sarcasm and said that what I did was sneaky and cold hearted. He said he should’ve let his mom in the delivery room otherwise none of this would’ve happened.
They’re both still salty about it and are sulking hard. How would you handle such a situation? any advice.
