In times of stress, a person’s true character typically emerges. And this universal truth applies to both their shortcomings and their talents. The entire family has been through a horrible event. In this story a woman’s spouse died of an aneurysm while attending his brother’s wedding. While everyone else was grieving, the bride had the arrogance to blame the dead for spoiling the most important day of her life. We’ve all heard of bridezillas, but this lady is out of this world. Read the story and share your view on this.
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My brother-in-law (Andres) married his long time girlfriend (Bea) last year. The wedding was held 30 mins from the city by boat. During the reception, my husband (Dante) collapsed. His brain aneurysm ruptured and he never made it to the hospital.
First day of my husband’s wake, Andres and Bea came. Andres had been crying, I noticed how he looked like he hadn’t had any sleep. Bea gave me her condolences, and placed flowers beside my husband’s casket. Andres was always there, only leaving to shower and change while Bea would visit every night.
On the 4th night, while I was making myself coffee, Bea approached me and started telling me how terrible things had been. Dante died on the most important day of her life. I told her how devastated I was. We have always been careful since the day we found out about Dante’s aneurysm. He quit his job as a physics teacher at our local high school 3 years ago. We visit our GP regularly just to make sure that everything is going well. Bea cut me off and asked me “so you mean you knew about the aneurysm?” I told her yes and that he had been taking medication for it. She said Andres never told her about it.
She continued saying it was reckless of us to dance and drink when we know about Dante’s condition (he only had a glass of champagne). I asked her what she meant and she basically told me that had she known about my husband’s illness, she never would’ve invited us to her wedding. She said we ruined her wedding. After we left the island, the reception was cut short. Andres was so worried to even focus on his new wife. I told her to leave before I forgot that she was ever my friend. She didn’t listen and continued telling me how expensive her wedding was and that by ruining it, I owe her half of the expenses.
I shouted at her, and told her to get over herself. My in-laws heard us and came to stop everything before it escalated. I told her to leave and never come back unless she apologized. My in-laws, who still didn’t understand what happened, told Andres to take Bea home. Both MIL and FIL were upset with me for causing a scene in their son’s wake. I didn’t tell them what Bea said. They only found out after Andres told them. He and Bea had a fight and they had moved their honeymoon which was supposed to be a month after we buried my husband.
To make the long story short, Bea didn’t apologize. Until now, we still haven’t spoken. I don’t go to family dinners anymore but I still have a good relationship with my in-laws. I do believe that I have all the right to be angry at Bea but I also want to make my in-laws happy. They have been nothing but good to me and unless Bea and I make up, there will always be tension in our family. So Am I A Jerk for the way I reacted? Was kicking her out an overreaction?
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