These days, raising a teenager is challenging. Monitoring their social media presence is quite difficult. A parent over-involved in their teen child’s social media presence is typically regarded as a violation of privacy. Read the story to know and let us know whether the mom was wrong in exposing her 16-year-old child’s false mental illness online.
A family friend told me my daughter (16f) has been claiming to have dissociative identity disorder (DID) on TikTok. Apparently this community is quite a trend now and my daughter posts videos with her alters and about the trauma she suffered that caused DID.
Only I am 99.9% sure she does not have DID. She didn’t suffer any significant trauma as a child, she has two loving parents and a stable middle class home with no financial or social challenges. She has lived a fairly normal and privileged life. She has never displayed any symptoms of DID at home. She also has an alter with a tic disorder in some videos and I have also never seen any real-life evidence of tics.
I took her to CAMHS when she had social anxiety but her team never mentioned anything like this.
I decided to confront her, to which she initially denied any knowledge of this. So I made an account on TikTok and commented on some of the videos saying I was her mum, she doesn’t have DID and needs to stop. I don’t want universities or employers or even predatory people to see this account and it to ruin her life.
I received some unpleasant responses from others in the community. My daughter either deleted the account or blocked me, and has been furious ever since saying I’m invalidating her, that her experience is valid and I embarrassed her publicly. I don’t think indulging this is right but maybe I’m insensitive to what it’s like being a teenager these days. Did I go too far here?
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