Nobody I know would feel guilty for having close bonds with their family members; being a part of a warm, caring family where you know everyone has your back is just so comfortable. Of course, a relationship of this kind doesn’t just happen. It develops from a combination of rules, security, and affection. Read the story to know what happened after learning that her mother-in-law had been taking naps on her and her husband’s bed, this woman felt that her mother-in-law was violating her limits.
My husband’s mom moved in with us a week ago. The minute we were informed she was going to move in (temporarily til her house gets renovated) we emptied a room specifically for her – it has everything. A bed with a frame, curtains, mounted TV, wardrobe etc. She was thrilled with it and loved it a lot.
One day I came home and found her in my bedroom sleeping in mine and my husband’s bed. I was confused but she told me she took a nap on the bed and lost track of time. Since then she started talking about how she loved the nap there and started hinting wanting to take maps in the bedroom from now on.
I kept ignoring her comments until my husband sat me down and told me that his mom really liked and “got used” to napping in our bedroom and we should just let her have her daily afternoon nap in the room. I said “absolutely not” and we started debating. I told him his mom is being ridiculous because she has a whole room upstairs where she should nap. He got upset and said that I was making his mom feel uncomfortable and unwelcome with this attitude. I said NO and refused to negotiate.
He called me selfish and mean for saying no and preventing his mom from feeling comfortable at “his house” but I reminded him that I pay full mortgage for the house while he blows money over gadgets and consoles. He accused me of bringing old disagreements in this current conflict to use against him. I said no again and that he should stop pushing because I need the room for when I get home feeling exhausted from working on my feet from 6am.
He’s refusing to speak to me til I agree and let his mom have her nap in there. Am I A Jerk for choosing this hill to die on as he says? Am I being difficult?.
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