I (early thirties female) have 2 children that were born when I was 21 and 22. My daughter(eldest) was an accident but my second daughter was deliberate as I found out that I needed a hysterectomy due to medical reasons and being an only child and psyc major I believed it was important that my daughter had a sibling.
At the time I had recently (amicably) split from my partner and my step father was strongly against me further ruining my life by having another child due to his belief that you cannot be successful as a singer parent. I ended up going no contact with my mum, step father and 2 half siblings(at the time 10 and 9) over this. My stepfather is in no position to talk as he and mum are far from well off due to his gambling addiction that chewed through my mum’s savings prior to his recovery.
About 2 years ago my mum reached out to me as she was diagnosed with cancer. She came through it and is now in remission. I am not as close with them as I used to be but things have been improving.
However, my stepfather keeps going on about how I never made it because I don’t have a nice car or a fancy apartment in the city or a husband and insisting that I must be poor because I’m not materialistic. I got used to being frugal in my early 20s when I was a poor uni student with 2 kids and just never really changed. I have a very nice Govt job with a 6 figure salary where i work from home but I drive a 2009 Nissan and I own a nice house in the country because I don’t see the point in buying a city apartment that I don’t need or a flashy car that will have a sh&tty kms to L ratio.
Things came to a head at a recent family dinner when I told my mum about a budget place to get tires from (hers are almost bald) and my stepfather said “good to have a poor person in the family so we know where the deals are”. I got pissed off and told him to stop assuming things about me and walked out with my kids.
Yesterday I notified them of the 60k trust I have set up for my half siblings uni trust fund and took them to buy a vehicle each so they can get to uni. Both are starting this year. I deliberately left the windscreen price stickers on so my stepfather would see how much I spent.
Today my stepfather called me ranting about how I was showing off and how I should keep my mouth shut and respect my elders. My mum texted to say that he’s furious at her. What are your opinions? Did I over react?
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