Love has no boundaries. Indeed, despite fundamental differences, many individuals will fall madly in love. These differences may never be more evident than when couples begin to arrange their wedding. This was especially true for this couple in the story when it came to planning the food. Read the story and do you think the bride’s reaction was justified?
Source: Reddit
My fiance (31 male) and I (25 female) are getting married soon. There wasn’t much that disagreed on during the wedding planning except for food. Me and my family are vegans, and there are so many reasons why we chose this lifestyle and one of them being that we have a history of health issues. My fiance and his family are the complete opposite. they’re hardcore meat eaters which is fine by me obviously.
However, When deciding on the wedding food menu, I wanted to add 4-5 vegan options. My fiance and his mom objected saying it was a waste of money over food that ‘isn’t real food’. They also argued that this would be offensive for ‘their’ guests and suggested my vegan options just be “the good ol’ salads & appetizers” (his mom wanted cupcakes lol). I said no because for one it’s me and my family who’s paying. and two I want to make my guests feel welcome and not be treated as second class citizens by being served “salad”. my fiance made a face and said “isn’t that what vegans eat?”. I refused to argue about it and said it was final.
The other day, I found out that he had cancelled all the vegan options and took them off the menu completely and behind my back. I was seething. I called him at work but he kept hanging up on me. I went straight to his workplace and confronted him there and just flipped out on him. He was stunned to see me. He at first said it was his mom’s idea then told me to go home because I was making a scene at the office. The fight continued at home and he defended himself by saying that I sort of made him resort to doing this after I kept brushing off his thoughts and input, and refusing to accommodate his family. but there were PLENTY of meat options. Why can’t I get 4-5 vegan options? when I’m paying for it?. He yelled that it was his wedding too, not my family’s. My family said it was fine and they’ll figure it out and told me to let it go but I refused.
Am I Wrong for putting my foot down on this?
UPDATE:
So his mom messaged me earlier to try to get me to listen to what she had to say after I kept ignoring her phone calls. She spent long walls of text just to “address” what I did at her son’s workplace, calling it all kinds of stuff from immature to unhinged. She then went on to explain how she’s noticed that me and my family kept “acting dismissive” of her son’s input and “contributions” to the wedding. She said that she noticed my behavior towards him and her entire family and wanted to speak up earlier but didn’t and tried to keep the peace. She then went on to address the food menu issue and denied her involvement in the cancellation of the vegan option but that didn’t mean she doesn’t support her son’s decision.
Moreover, she thought it was soooo responsible of him to make that move because of my continual refusal to see how this stuff is a waste of money. She also pointed out how I kept saying “I paid for it” and said that technically this isn’t just my money, it’s mine and his because we’re getting married she suggested I wake up and get rid of “my money, I paid for it” mentality. She finally mentioned how “bad” this whole situation is making me look, and said that she and her son had already offered a number of compromises that I chose to brush off and decided to make it my “weird” hill to die on.
She said that not only her son is upset but she and “the family” are as well after hearing about it and suggested I just agree on their compromise and be done with it. This pissed me off beyond belief. I responded by letting her know that I’m still standing my ground on this even if I’ll have to call the whole wedding off because of it because honestly? this is just ridiculous, it is!!! my mom and dad….they don’t even know what to say anymore. Apparently, my fiance saw my response to her (he’s with her) and is now trying to call me but right now…
SHOULD I RECONSIDER THIS MARRIAGE?
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