A pregnant woman with severe morning sickness returns home from the hospital to find her husband has allowed his brother’s family to move in and trash their home. After a fight, she calls her mother for help, who shows up with her brothers and cleans the house while her husband’s family complains. The pregnant woman’s mother takes charge, causing tension with her mother-in-law.
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I (26f) recently moved into my first home. I am also 4 months pregnant with our first baby.
The pregnancy has been very hard. I have horrible morning sickness. It reached a really bad point where I passed out, hit my head, and my doctor admitted me to the hospital for a week.
When I got home, my husband allowed his brother’s family to move into 2 of our 3 bedrooms. (They were evicted; I don’t know why.) One room was My office was tossed into our room, with papers everywhere. The house was a complete wreck. Trash, dirty clothes, used diapers. I started to cry. It was like a light flip. My husband was no longer the same. My husband told me it “wasn’t that bad.” My reply was, “Fine, then you should have the house cleaned up before I wake up.” Completely exhausted, I fell asleep for 4 hours. I woke up and went to get a drink of water. I couldn’t, every glass we own is scattered around the house. They didn’t clean a single thing. I aggressively started to pick up the dirty dishes and wash them.
the following morning. I was trying my best to work when their kids were crying nonstop. banging on the walls, and so on. Their mother had been in her room for hours, ignoring them.
when my husband came home. He was upset with me over how I didn’t make his brother’s wife feel welcome in our home by helping with their kids when she was tired. Then he continued to complain about how nothing was done while he was at work all day in the house. Yep, the same one he didn’t clean.
That led to a fight, where I told him “I am too sick to have company, and they need to leave.” To which he replied that they were his family and he wouldn’t kick them out. I started to cry again. I was beyond frustrated and exhausted; I physically couldn’t do it anymore. I called my mom, asking if I could come stay with her. I told her the whole story in front of my husband. At this point, he was completely shocked and angry, and I could tell he wasn’t sure what to do.
My mom came with my brothers (I have 3 older brothers). My mother, who was furious, told my husband. “Since your family can stay, so can we.” My mom quickly took charge. I was sent to bed. My brother started cleaning, complaining loudly at how disgusting my BIL family is. along with what a horrible man is my husband is for putting me through this while I am sick.
I got a text message from my MIL for calling me an A for not helping my husband clean up the house and putting my BIL in an uncomfortable position by having my mom boss him around. Am I Wrong ?
UPDATE :
when my MIL showed up she was super angry outside. I could hear shouting but couldn’t understand what was said. Once inside she was shocked. My house looked really bad. My BIL lied to her about what happened. My MIL quickly started to help my mom in the bossing mode. My house is not just cleaned but deep cleaned.
My BIL and his kids are now staying with MIL. She didn’t know about the eviction. My in-laws helped them financially a couple of months ago. My MIL was not happy about it.
SIL refused to come out of the bedroom. She would scream through the door but that was about it until her family came to pick her up. Last little bit. I did talk to my husband. He seemed very remorseful. I asked for some space, he is staying at a hotel. He asked to come by and talk to me tonight.
My mom and dad are here. Both mom’s felt like I should have someone here since I am sick. Both moms have set up a meal plan. Where they trade off who will bring in dinner. It was my MIL idea.
Talk with husband: summed up since it lasted 4 hrs. It was a hard talk. He is remorseful. Bil was only supposed to stay for a couple of nights. Then leave originally he thought they would be gone before I got home. He said he is tired and emotionally upset. When I originally passed out. My husband left to help a friend move. He came home and found me. He said he had no idea how long I was on the floor hurtf. He was originally scared I had died. Since then he has had nightmares. On top of dealing with his family drama. He admitted to dumping his frustration onto me. When it’s not my fault. He begged me for another chance. The next steps. We are still separated. He plans on staying at my brother house in his casita. We are going to go to marriage counseling and Individual counseling. He asked if he could come when the home health nurse comes each night and to my Dr’s appointments. I agreed to that.
Update on BIL: his wife admitted to having and affair. She told him she got married too soon and doesn’t want the responsibilities of being a mom anymore. I am not sure what will happen with him and his kids but, I am shocked that she feels this way especially with her kids.
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