Context:: My ex husband and I have custody of our 11 yo son. He’s diabetic and since his diagnosis is relatively new, we’re still working on managing things for him so he could continue to live a normal life just like other kids.
His stepdad is responsible for dropping him off/picking him up from school since his step siblings attend the same school. The issue began when my son started asking me or his bio dad to take him to school instead of his stepdad. He said the reason for that is because his stepsiblings open his lunchbox and take all the additional snacks that he needs in case he had a hypoglycemic episode (that’s what we call “low blood sugar”). His step siblings would take his lunchbox from him and take the snacks and only leave him his sandwich and water. His stepdad thinks there’s nothing wrong with “sharing” although I explained to him about a millionth times how important his snacks are. He promised that he won’t let his kids touch my son’s lunchbox from now on and I believed him.
Days ago, My son came home and told me his step siblings took his snacks from his lunchbox again. I was enraged. I asked if his stepdad saw them, he said yes and he scolded him when he refused to let them have the snacks. I lost it, I blew up at my husband and told him that my son won’t be riding in his car again with his stepsiblings after what they’d done and after he allowed it. I told him that my son’s father will be driving him to and from school from now on. He lashed at me saying that I was driving a wedge between the kids and teaching my son to grow up being selfish and self centered and anti-social. And also making my son distant from him and getting him to favor his bio dad. I refused to discuss it now he’s acting all hurt and disrespected saying it was not worth ruining the kids relationship over some snacks.
Edited:: his argument is that I don’t get his kids the same amount of snacks I get for my son (they go through their snacks in no time). In my defense, I said that the snacks are part of my son’s diabetes management routine and he, unlike his step siblings, needs them anytime. And so I don’t feel like I’m obligated, or that I should buy his step siblings the same amount of snacks seeing that they can do without them for a while. Am I making sense here?
Edited2:: My stepchildren’s ages are (13 & 10)
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