Nobody knows if it’s a boy or a girl with ten little fingers, ten little toes, two small eyes, and one little nose. Welcoming a new life into the world is thrilling, and while there will be many more essential things to discover about them than their gender, a gender reveal is a great milestone for many new parents. Read the story to know why the wife has distanced herself from her in-laws and do you agree with her decision?
Source: Reddit
I am 7 months pregnant with my first child. The baby is also the first grandchild/nephew of my husband’s family which everyone is excited about.
I lost my mother and father to the pandemic, being an only child, so there’s not much of my family. Since the death of my parents (1 year ago), my husband’s family has welcomed me with open arms as part of them and I have become very close to my MIL and SIL.
I always wanted to have a gender reveal and I trusted my SIL to organize everything about this.
With 3 days to go before the party, I started to receive messages from all my husband’s relatives and even close friends congratulating me on my baby being a boy.
I went to ask what happened, my SIL confessed that she let it slip to my MIL and she told everyone the sex of the baby after knowing, because she couldn’t hold it and it took proportions beyond what they imagined. Nobody called me to tell me this.
The party was canceled and I was heartbroken, as well as extremely hurt by the two of them.
Usually they accompanied me to the ultrasound, shopping for the baby’ room and my MIL would stay at the time of delivery.
But after this breach of trust, I stopped inviting them and asked them to respect my boundaries when they pressured me to go. Honestly, I didn’t even send them the baby shower invite, because I really avoided contact with them as much as possible. Because everyone knew before me that it was a boy.
My husband started complaining that I was pushing them away because of a mistake that could happen and that I was being harsh.
Yesterday he brought up this and when I said that I still didn’t feel comfortable with them, he said “Soon you’ll tell me that my mother won’t be able to go to the birth “.
I think my face showed my response and he started saying I was being too hard on her because she was just excited and blabla.
I had my limit and said, “If you keep pushing me, it won’t just be your mother who won’t be in my labor. So either stop or you won’t come in.”
He started to say that I was crossing lines and that he had a right to have this moment. I was taking this with them too far.
He slept on the couch and didn’t talk to me as much as necessary. Am I Overreacting ? What Should I Do ?
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