In-law relationships may be challenging to navigate. You may connect with your mother-in-law and exchange positive energy. However, many of us may not have the ideal relationship with our mother in law. Mothers-in-law can be a cause of toxicity at times. Read the story to know what drama this mother-in-law created and let us know if you agree with the wife’s action.
So my (28f) husband (31m) had to spend two months in a different state for work. He came back 9 days ago. I am obviously thrilled he’s back and I’ve missed him a lot. I was hoping we would be able to spend some time together just the two of us. However his mom (56f) came over when he was supposed to come home. I was slightly annoyed but I know she was just excited for her son to be back. However she never left. Like I was prepared to deal with her being there for a day or two but no 9 days.
Because she’s been here for nine days we haven’t had a second of time together. She insists on staying here instead of a hotel. (For the record she lives an hour away.) The guest room is right next to ours and the walls are thin. When the two of us go out she comes with us. Or makes one of us stay with her bc otherwise we would be “bad hosts”. She follows us around the house constantly. We want to cuddle and watch movies, she’s sitting in the arm chair. We want to go to a romantic restaurant better make that a table for three. We have even left her in the living room to go “chat” in our room and she follows us.
Earlier today I just asked her to leave. (Even though both of us have been hinting that she needs to go.) She kept saying she wasn’t ready to go yet and wanted more time with her son. I tried telling her we wanted some alone time and she kept insisting that she join us. Finally I snapped and said “Since you seem to be oblivious, I will put this bluntly. I want to f*** your son. If you don’t want to see or hear then you need to leave.” (Ik this isn’t the classiest response ever but I was frustrated.) Anyway she yelled at me but eventually left. We finally got to have our “alone time.” But now she is blowing up both of our phones. She is saying that I am disgusting and have no respect for her, her son, or myself. She keeps telling my husband that he shouldn’t be with someone so crude and how dare he let me speak to her like that. I’m sure you get the idea. Ik that what I said was really inappropriate. Did I go too far here?
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