Losing your mom is a terrible pain however one must move on in life. In this story a husband lost his mother and it led him to depression. Read the story of what took place between the couple and let us know how you would have reacted in the wife’s place.
Source: Reddit
I’m F32, married for 4 years to “Andy” (M37).
Last June (around 11 months ago), Andy’s mother passed away in a car accident. It was totally unexpected. He was super close to her, and it hit him hard – he developed really bad depression. I tried my best to stay strong for him and offer comfort whenever he needed it, but it has been so hard being his emotional crutch. Andy stayed at home all day, quit his job and barely paid attention to me. I had to pay all the bills.
Soon, I realised that our relationship was dying. Intimacy was long gone and Andy rarely talked to me. I begged him to go to a therapist, and tried all ways to help him. He refused all of them. It broke my heart to see the man I love fall to pieces.
Yesterday, Andy and I had an argument. I came home from a really bad day at work and found him surrounded by rubbish on the couch. I tiredly asked him to please clean it up, but he refused. Something just snapped in me, and I yelled “I think it’s time you get over your mom!”
Andy looked at me like I was crazy, and said “How could you say such a thing? My mother is not like some sh%t ex, it’s my mother! And she’s dead.” I apologised, but told him to look at himself – no job, depressed, throwing away his life and relationship with his wife. He said “It’s already so hard, don’t make it harder. I don’t need you scolding me at the hardest point of my life!” I tried to get my point across but he abruptly got mad – calling me a “#$%king b#$%^h” then left.
I’ll admit – what I said was horrible. It was unfair to him. But I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel burnt out and I desperately need someone too, just like him. I feel so alone every minute of the day. Did I go too far here? Does he have a valid point ?
What would you do in her situation? Any advice. Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted:
