Individuals are rallying on social media in support after a lady posted what she tells everyone who queries her lack of kids.
We may live in the twenty-first century, when AI technology outsmarts humans, but many things are still catching up, such as certain individuals interrogating women about why they don’t have kids.
Fortunately, a TikToker has come up with the right answer to shut it down. Get ready to yell ‘Yas Queen’.
@the_mrs_sallee Please lmk your thoughts in the comments or stitch this! #childfree #childfreebychoice #childfreetiktok #childfreelife #stitchthis #children #nokids #nochildren #nokidsforme #nokidsclub #childfreemillennial #childfreelifestyle #childfreeandhappy #kidfree #kidfreelife #advice ♬ Childless by Choice – Maelen S.
TikToker Gvizzle’s video is in response to another user named Maelen, who asks: “If you are 40s and up, so 40s, 50s, 60s, even more than that, if you are forties and up and a woman or even a woman with a partner, who has gone their entire life childless (on purpose), please tell me what your life is like now.”
Explaining she’s been warned ‘many times’ she would end up ‘jealous’ of her friends who have kids and feel like she’s missed out ‘on something’ and be ‘unhappy,’ Maelen turns to other women for guidance.
“I need to know from someone who I see myself as later in life […] who is either in their forties or beyond […] that you are either happy with your life or give me the cold, hard truth,” she adds. “Do you feel like you missed out, or do you feel confident and content with your life?”
And user Gvizzle certainly delivers the cold, hard truth. The user claims that she has known ‘her whole life’ that she would not have children, even when she was five years old.
@gvizzle_74 #stitch with @Maelen S. Repeat after me, “I fail to understand how my life choices impact you in any way.” You don’t owe anyone an explanation. ##childfree##childfreebychoice##childfreelife##childfreetiktok##noregrets##GoodDeedsCup ♬ original sound – gvizzle
Individuals should question why they want kids just as much as those who don’t want to have kids should question and think about it, Gvizzle adds. No one plans to be a s****y parent, but there’s a f**k ton of s****y parents out there.
Individuals fail to realize that other people want different things for their lives than they want for themselves, the TikToker resolves. She, for one, cannot see how someone can live in a home without a dog.
A house without a dog is an empty house to her; other people feel the same way about kids; both feelings are valid. But it also means that she can’t order one to acquire a dog, and one can’t tell her to have kids.
She has not regretted not having kids for 48 years in a heartbeat; however, if the day comes when she does regret it, she would rather spend the next 35 or 40 years lamenting not having them than the last 20 years and the next 40 regretting having them. One doesn’t miss what one doesn’t want.
*Drops mic*
Viewers flocked to Gvizzle’s post to applaud her answer.
One person commented, “SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK.”
“It amazes me how many people will call you selfish for *not* wanting something,” said another.
A third problem was solved: “PREACH.”
