Nobody ever wants to make a youngster feel excluded especially during birthday parties. It may be quite upsetting to witness a little boy or girl appear sad or unhappy, therefore most parents do everything possible to avoid this from happening. Read the story to know what happened during a birthday party and let us know what you would have done.
I (35F) have a 10 year old daughter named Alicia. She just turned 10 this past Thursday and the party was Saturday. Alicia has a good friend at school named Quinn and she was at the party along with her mom Liz. The party was at one of those indoor trampoline, bouncy house places. I do not like Liz because she spoils Quinn to the point that’s she impossible to discipline, she doesn’t listen, and is very self centered.
Quinn is so spoiled that she throws tantrums whenever the attention isn’t on her, so I was afraid this would be an issue at the party but Alicia really wanted her there. So Alicia gets her cake and Liz actually asked me if Quinn could blow out the candles with my daughter because her daughter was about to pitch a fit. Alicia and I both said no and Quinn started to cry. Everyone ignored her while we ate cake and when we moved onto gifts.
Quinn threw a full blown tantrum when she saw Alicia opening all her presents from her family and friends. She screamed about wanting one of Alicia’s gifts and how it wasn’t fair how she was “getting everything”. It was so embarrassing because even people outside of our party room heard. Alicia was getting annoyed trying to yell her thank you’s to the guests for her gifts because some of them barely heard her over Quinn’s tantrum. The kids went to play again (one of the parents suggested it to get away from Quinn’s screaming) and she sat there and pouted instead of playing.
After everyone left the room I told Liz that she needed to take her daughter home because she was making Alicia’s party about her meltdowns. I said that Quinn obviously didn’t want to be there because the day wasn’t about her, so it would make sense to just leave. Liz tried to say she would calm Quinn down but I wouldn’t even let her speak. I demanded that she leave and went out to watch my daughter play. My husband (he was on his way, he was coming later on) told me that I should have just let Quinn stay instead of causing a scene and adding to the drama because Alicia was still having a good time.
I don’t know, I just don’t think Alicia wanted someone throwing tantrums every two seconds at her 10th bday party even if she didn’t say it. That’s not ideal for anyone. Did I go too far here? Please don’t be afraid to criticise. Thank you for your time in advance.
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