To become a mother is a challenging process that requires as much help as possible. Pregnant women generally get a pass for being emotional or hormonal, but do they ever go “too far?” In this story a pregnant woman feels as though she “acted out” in front of her OBGYN. Read the story and let us know what you think about it.
I know the title sounds crazy so hear me out. Am I really the a**h**e for this?
I (25F) and my boyfriend (25M) are expecting our first child together. We have been together for 6 years, so it is what you would consider a long term relationship. We had our first prenatal appointment yesterday and this is what went down. For starters, this is my first time at this certain clinic, and therefore, my first time with this OBGYN.
We get to the clinic and obgyn comes into the room. Right away she seemed rushed, and a little rude, making me feel like my questions were stupid, you know, basic stuff you would expect. Exams were performed and all nothing huge. At the end of the appointment, she told me that I would have to get my blood drawn from the lab. Of course I knew this was coming but it really didn’t make it easier. I have a huge fear of needles and it especially sucks when you’re pregnant. So I said something like “Okay sure. I’m just really scared of needles, so it won’t be easy…”.
My obgyn laughed and replied that if I thought needles were bad, I would just have to wait and see how bad giving birth is. It kind of stung when she said that to me because it felt like she wasn’t taking a genuine fear of mine seriously. I replied that yes of course giving birth hurts but it didn’t change the fact that I still hate needles and getting poked and blood and all. She then said “You obviously have no problem with having sex, so you can handle something smaller poking you.” I was floored.
Now, this obgyn wasn’t crazy old so that was another reason I was taken aback by her statement. And wondering why? She literally works with pregnant women. Me and my boyfriend aren’t married and obviously don’t have rings on our fingers, so maybe she had an issue with that?
So, as much as it hurt, I knew that I shouldn’t take this woman seriously after THAT comment. I asked her if her mother was the virgin Mary or something, since she had a problem with sex. OB turned to me with a scowl. I then continued with my shitty acting skills: “Wait…if your mother was the virgin Mary…that means…Oh my god! You must be the second coming of Jesus!!!!! Ohh it’s a miracle!!! Bless Jesussss” Out of breath, I put my arms up in the air and started singing ” ♫ HOLY HOLY HOOOLLLLLLLY, LORDDD GOD OF MOSTTTTTTT ♫”
So after she witnessed this she kept quiet, grabbed her things and walked out of the room, which is what I wanted. My boyfriend burst out laughing, hunched over, which caused a similar reaction from me. It was such a spontaneous thing I had done, but I loved it. And you know, the overwhelming joy was actually enough for me to get through the blood test…so yay I guess?
Anyway, me and my mom went out to dinner together today. She asked me about the first appointment and I told her about what transpired. My mom was upset and said that it was wrong of me to act crazy during the appointment, and that we should have just got up and walked away if we didn’t like the OBGYN. Did I Overreact? What is your opinion?
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