Marriage is a beautiful journey with highs and lows. Every marriage has its ups and downs, but it is up to you to determine how much “down” you can tolerate. In the end, a good and successful marriage requires both partners. Read the story to know what happened between this couple and let us know what the wife should do.
I just found out that my husband has been cheating on me for over a year. And that he is no longer in love with me. We’ve been together for 16 years, we have 4 kids between the ages of 15 and 8 months old. (Obviously, a healthy sex life). I always thought I was like this perfect wife; I cook, I clean, i love to have sex with him, I do yard work, I take our kids to all of their sports, I do all of the domestic chores (and our older kids too), I’m attractive, still have some tummy left from the baby, but barely overweight. I’ve been nothing but a devoted mom and wife.
But the house is never clean enough, I never communicate well enough, and while I’m a SAHM nanny, he started seeing a work associate. If you’d have asked me a week ago, I would have said we have a perfect family. But I guess I was wrong. I don’t know what to do. I’m lost. He says he’ll pay off our house and take care of us. I can spend like I normally would and he will pay for it. That he will be there for our children. But it feels so hollow right now. Is there a way to have a friendly divorce? To guarantee anything? I really don’t want to get a lawyer. We live in a HOCL area, there is no way I could afford anything to go wrong. And my husband will be moving out at the end of the month. To go be with his new family.
Also, I’m insanely worried for our kids. Oh, and speaking of kids, he has one on the way. Apparently due in about 4 months. What kind of person cheats on their pregnant spouse? What kind of person sleeps with a married man that has 3 kids and one on the way? My 10 year old has often voiced how lucky she is to have two great parents that love each other. She will be devastated. She’ll probably need counseling. I’m devastated. I think my teenager will be ok, and so will my 5 yr old and baby. But I’m not ok. I can’t sleep and just feel like an utter failure. How do I tell my kids? How much honesty is needed here?
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