Tattoo acceptance has shifted dramatically in recent decades. However, many individuals stay split over what constitutes ‘acceptable’ body decoration, from the professional to the highly personal. So, when a widowed mother discovered a second shot at love, her memorial tattoo became an issue in her new relationship. Read the story and let us know how you would deal with such a situation.
Source: Reddit
I was a widow for 3 years before I met my fiancé (Julius). I lost my husband and 4 year old son in a boating accident. When I got back on my feet after losing them, I had their names tattooed on my chest. Nothing grand, it’s just their names in cursive and two hearts.
When I met Julius I told him about my past. Including my depression and how I had to move back to my parents’ and depended on them for years. He was very understanding and after over a year of dating, he proposed. Yesterday, while I was getting out of the shower, Julius asked me when I plan to have my tattoo removed. He said he knows someone who’s really good and he could give us a discount.
This was the first time he mentioned something like this to me so I wasn’t sure how to respond. I just told him I have no plans of having my tattoo removed. Later that day, during dinner he asked me again and I told him the same thing. He said we’re about to get married and it’s time for me to move on. I told him I have already moved on. He said it’s hardly moving on when I still have their names on my chest, that he can see every time we’re intimate. He said it makes him uncomfortable and insecure of my love for him because it looks like I can’t let go of my past. He’s been giving me the cold shoulder since. I told my mom about what happened and she told me she understands how Julius feels. Should I get my tattoo removed?
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