My F,25 husband M,32, had undergone a surgery days ago. The surgery required anesthesia and his family and I waited til the evening for him to wake up.
He was in and out for a while but then started regaining consciousness gradually. The nurse gave me a signal to go in with his mom. I stood by his bed and he was speaking to his mom. He then turned his head towards me, made a face and asked who I was. I told him my name but couldn’t recognize me (don’t know if this was deliberate) I told him I was his wife and he frowned and said “no…no you can’t be my wife….you’re ugly”.
This made me upset and I was completely floored at what he said. I didn’t know what to say. I just stared at him while he looked away. I quietly stepped out and told his family and mom that I was going home. His mom kept shouting after me saying I was overreacting and that I shouldn’t just go home and leave her son alone when he was just waking up.
I got home. Cried my eyes out then called my dad. He calmed me down but then said that I should stop being too sensitive and that my husband didn’t know what he was saying and so he didn’t mean it and couldn’t control it. I argued that he must think I’m ugly since I heard that people under the effect of anesthesia are like drunk people and tell what’s really on their mind. Dad laughed at this and said that still, walking out like that probably wasn’t ideal and it must’ve upset my in-laws.
I admit being too cautious and insecure about my look, I don’t see myself pretty so I don’t expect him to lie and say I am but calling me ugly? This I couldn’t let go. What are your opinions? Did I over react?
What would you do in her situation? Any advice. Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: