In life the loss of your loved ones is one of the most heartbreaking experiences anyone can go through. As humans we all have opinions and views that we share but we need to understand the other person’s feelings, state of mind and many other aspects. At that time it’s best to keep quiet and not ask anything. In this story a woman questioned her colleague about the ring he wore which didn’t go well with him. Read the story below and let us know what you think about it.
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A couple of weeks ago we had a new employee hired at the company. He’s a good guy and a widower named “James” (36) and to my knowledge his late wife passed away 8 months ago. Me (f32) and the other coworkers got along well with him. However I noticed that he is still wearing his wedding band on his finger. It kind of confused me a bit and I couldn’t help but bring it up with him while on lunch break.
We talked and I pointed out that he was being misleading by still wearing his wedding band when he’s a widower. He looked quite bothered by what I said but I tried to explain that I think that he was giving people the wrong idea or impression about his relationship status since he’s technically single and on his own right now (don’t want to sound cruel but I’m speaking from technical angle).
James said that he didn’t give it much thought (meaning he don’t care what people think) and that even if he wasn’t wearing his wedding band and some woman approached him he’d still turn them down since he’s obviously not interested.
For some reason things got awkward and everyone stopped eating and just stared at James and me. I told him I don’t know but that really really felt generally misleading of him as in making people think he is in a relationship (married) when he is not regardless of how he felt about being in a relationship.
He got upset, called me rude, and said that I repeatedly disrespected his marriage and his late wife’s memory with what I said then took his stuff and walked away. My co workers said regardless of who is right or wrong (though some said he overreacted) there was no reason for me to bring this up on the first place and cause a scene and make James upset with us like that now he’s not speaking to me and others who sided with me.
This was just a conversation we were casually having with the other co workers and I didn’t use any insensitive tones or anything but we had a discussion and it suddenly turned into an argument. I tried to let things calm down but the situation got out of my hand unexpectedly.
Did I overstep or did he overreact?
