When one family member feels responsible for the other, things may quickly get complex. One lady recently posted that she stood up to support her brother when he was found having an affair, but she is now regretting her actions. The lady reveals that her brother’s lover moved into a rental property she owns. However, the mistress has never paid her rent, and the lady is considering evicting her. Read the story and how would you deal with such a situation.
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My brother (51m) his mistress (47 F) Niece (1yr) Back story, my brother had an affair on his wife. They have 5 kids. After quitting his job, they moved in with his in-laws. My brother’s mistress got pregnant. She Decided to quit her job. She was evicted from her previous rental. Leaving my niece homeless.
My brother’s wife decided to try and work things out. I ended up having a lot of family pressure to allow my Brother’s mistress and my niece move into my rental. To try and create a stable environment for my niece. Eventually I agreed to allow them to move in with a couple of conditions. 1. Pay $500 each month. Most of it goes to the cost of the utilities. 2. No dogs. The mistress quickly agreed. Since the rent is extremely cheap and let us know she will be starting her new job soon.
The first month I received half the rent. Then the last 5 months nothing at all. It’s become a burden for me to keep them there. I am working additional hours to cover the expenses. My brother’s mistress never went to work. I have tried and tried to talk to them. Trying to work things out. It’s going nowhere. I gave his mistress a 30 day notice to move.
During that time I found out she is pregnant with baby #2. My brother’s wife kicked him out and he moved into my rental with his mistress. They didn’t leave after 30 days. They ignored my attempts to talk to them. So I served a 5 day notice. Still no reply. So I went to the court and filed for an eviction. Since they were served my phone has not stopped. Just about every family member has called upset. My dad told me to finish it. He feels like my brother needs to “man up” and take care of his kids. Both from his wife and mistress. My dad told me to put my kids first.
My mom however is livid. She told me that I would be responsible if my niece and the new baby will be taken away from cps. She said my kids are old enough to understand mommy working extra hours in the name of “supporting family”. She feels like I should continue working over time and paying for their expenses until the new baby arrives in 7 months.
Am I the A for kicking my brother’s pregnant mistress to the curb???
Update: to answer a couple of questions. Yes she is pregnant. I was there at the ER when the dr told her. I also found out she wasn’t using any birth control. As of right now the court date is Monday morning. I should find out there if the judge will allow additional time for them to stay. In most cases it’s 72 hrs. Unless I drop it or allow more time. Last, my husband and I have talked about taking the babies into our home. Just them. It’s a major change for our kids. We feel like it’s something we need more time to decide..
Update #2: My mom showed up to my house tonight. It’s quite the drive. She has been crying. I invited her in to have dinner with me and my kids. After my kids left with my husband trick or treating. She tried again to allow my brother to stay. She said with their health they couldn’t allow them to stay in their home. I told her that I feel like I am enabling my brother to not take responsibility for ALL his children. I told her I am tired of working non-stop for someone who is more than capable of working. She left sad. I will see my brother for the first time since he was served tomorrow at court. It will be interesting for sure. I am a little heart broken but it needs to happen. My hope is the judge doesn’t extend the time they have in my rental. I feel like it will just make things harder.
UPDATE* OK so I went to court today. My brother and his mistress didn’t show up. The judge did a good job. She ruled in my favor. My brother has to be out By Saturday. If he is not, the Constable can remove him and his mistress on Monday morning once the courts open up. Everything was going well until my husband asked the judge if we were responsible to notify my brother of the ruling since he was not there. The judge said we could pay for the constable to deliver a copy of the ruling today. I gave the constable all the info including when both my brother and mistress would be home. After I left the courts I got a call from my parents both on the line. I told my mom the constable will deliver the court’s ruling to my brother to give them the maximum time to prepare to move. My mom was dead silent.
My dad burst into laughter. I was then informed the reason my brother and his mistress did come to court was they had outstanding warrants I knew nothing about. So there is a good chance they will be arrested today. I can’t enter the rental until next Monday. I will update then. If I am president when they go to remove my brother and his mistress. I was told today if they are not gone they will have 15 mins to gather whatever before they are removed by the police.
