They believe that when you marry, you marry into your family. While some in-laws become your greatest second family, bringing you happiness and contentment, others are a pain in the neck with no cure. This is the story of a woman who recently revealed her experience. Read the story and do you agree with what the wife has done.
Source: Reddit
My MIL lives across town and has a tendency to just turn up on the doorstep unannounced and uninvited, usually at around 8:15 in the morning on a workday when DH starts work at 8:30 (he WFH).
In DH’s family, it’s the norm to just pop round to each other’s houses and they all live in the same neighbourhood but I really, really don’t like surprise visitors.
I’m a very private person and quite introverted so I need time to prepare myself mentally for any extended visits or socializing. DH has told his mum to call or text us before just showing up, and she scoffs and says “I don’t need to ask, I’m your mum!” and it’s just not sinking in.
We actually had a huge side gate installed on the drive because she had a habit of just coming round the back and knocking on the lounge windows when we didn’t answer the front door.
If we are working out in the garden she will call DH and demand to know why he isn’t answering the door. We had guests last summer that we hadn’t seen in a while and she just turned up and came round the back and let herself in, and joined us all in the lounge until DH hinted that she needed to go.
I just find it so intrusive, rude, and socially inept but it doesn’t seem to be sinking in with her. I probably wouldn’t mind her visits as much if she actually knew how to have a conversation.
She just monologues about her family dramas and work issues until she whips herself up into tears while I sit uncomfortably and DH scrolls through his phone ignoring her.
I honestly can’t remember a time when she asked me how I am or what was going on in my life. I feel like she just breezes into my home and starts rambling and I can’t even follow what she’s talking about half the time. It’s just consciousness ranting about people I don’t know and will never meet.
DH has told her time and again to call or text before coming over, and she does about half the time, but only to say “I’m in the car, I’ll be there in 5 minutes” instead of asking if it’s alright to pop over or she will just show up and say “but it was just spontaneous” when asked why she didn’t call.
I’m at my wit’s end here, Am I Being Unreasonable for wanting to pull the curtains closed and ignore her next time she turns up?
