Losing a baby is a traumatic and most painful experience for any parent. Read the story of the two sisters to know why they had an argument and what do you think they should do? how would you deal with the situation
Three years ago I gave birth to a little girl who only lived for 19 hours. It was a traumatic experience for me and one I struggle with to this day and the pain of her loss led to my ex-boyfriend and I splitting up as we couldn’t stand to be together anymore. Her name is not a family name, she was called Coraline with Iris as her middle name. My Ex Boyfriend and I just each picked a name we liked.
My younger sister recently had a daughter and she kept the name a secret from everyone until it was legal. I didn’t think twice about this until the name went online in an announcement, Iris Coraline. She took both my daughters names and just swapped the order. If she’d only taken one of the names to try and honour my daughter and made a middle name I wouldn’t be upset but this felt deliberate and the fact she hid it from everyone makes it even worse.
I went to her home to demand to know what she was playing with and she got offended telling me she’d always thought the names were beautiful and she’d swapped the order so I shouldn’t be upset. This led to an argument with shouting on both ends, finally I called her an insensitive bi**h before I left and ended up crying a lot when I got home.
Everyone in the family is uncomfortable with this name choice but many think I took it too far to go round to her house and start a fight when she’s recovering from giving birth. Our Mother has told me that there is no changing it now and to just consider it a nice way to keep my daughters names alive but that just feels even worse to me. I might be too close to all of this and it is a traumatic matter for me. Did I go too far?
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