We wait all year for our special day to arrive so we may spend it with our loved ones. While some individuals celebrate their birthdays privately, others organize a big celebration and invite as many individuals as they can. However, not everyone is okay with throwing money away. Here is a similar story of a woman who declined to eat her birthday supper since it was too pricey. Read the story and do you think she was right in doing so.
Source: Reddit
So I (F24) had a birthday today and my whole family went to celebrate. My partner (M28) planned the whole thing and didn’t want to tell me. He wanted it to be a surprise. I have never liked surprises. I think he knows as much. My father also planned some of it, so he wasn’t in the dark about it.
Anyway, so the day starts out by driving 2 hours to go ice skating. Also a surprise but one I was receptive of. I love ice skating. We then go to dinner which I was unaware of where we were going to. We get there and I quickly realize that this was a very expensive restaurant and something I wasn’t comfortable with. I hate spending money and people spending money on me.
My father asked what I was going to order. I said nothing. Instant looks for my family, already knowing what’s up. I typically don’t like to eat so this isn’t a shocker. They think I’m almost joking though, so nothing happens. The time to order comes around. I order nothing. My mother asks me if I’d rather leave. Drinks have been placed and everyone else has ordered. I refused since we already placed orders. We stay. I think they believed I would be eating off their plates. I didn’t. The dinner lasted nearly three hours and I didn’t eat a thing. Not even the dessert they brought out for me since it was my birthday. I was invested in not eating. Which might make me TAH. The diner cost $900 which is far too much for that. I hated it. I hate money being spent like that.
Now, they know I hate spending money on food and money spent on me. Just this July we went out to a pricy place (not nearly as much as that) and I didn’t order anything. We then had a conversation about it and how it makes me uncomfortable spending that much money on food. We had also gone to an amusement park that summer and I didn’t eat anything I didn’t purchase. The food is far too expensive and if my family chips in to buy me food I just feel gross about it. They know this much about me. They should after 24 years.
My father and husband have expressed how they really wanted to go to this particular restaurant in the past. I said I didn’t find the need to and didn’t care about it that much. That was months ago. They also say how it’s sad that I never want to go places. Ever. I’m an introvert at heart. My husband complains that I never want to do anything with him. So they know I hate leaving the house.
I’m going to have a conversation about it when we get home and explain my feelings. I felt like my birthday was completely ruined. My husband, I can tell, is upset that I didn’t eat. And I think he’ll place the blame on me. And I don’t want to make my father sad. So it’s a tough situation. Am I A Jerk for refusing to eat a meal that would have cost over 1k if I had ordered food?
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