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I’m a working (sole income earner for the time being) of 2. My husband has been struggling to find a job for 16 months (Idk what’s up with that) and so I’ve been solely paying for everything.
As you know it’s summer time, and the kids want to go to the beach every weekend but I’m busy working often and my husband won’t bother taking them unless he uses my car which is a no from me because I need it for work. Anyway so I put money towards renovating (and upgrading) our old pool so the kids could use it. Thing is, once the pool was ready my husband started inviting his friends to come over and use it for hours. They’d basically taken over preventing the kids from enjoying it. They complained about being denied the pool several times which caused them to get upset.
So what I did was talk to my husband about it and tell him to limit his friends’ usage of the pool. He flipped out at me saying it’s his house/water too and I can’t control what he does/who he brings. I got mad and in return told him that tomorrow the kids get the pool or else I will ban his friends from it completely. He side eyed me and said “FINE! THEY CAN HAVE THE DAMN POOL TOMORROW!”
The next day, my daughter calls me crying saying dad brought his friends over and refused to let her and her brother play in the pool. I was L.I.V.I.D I literally left work right then and went home. I saw him and his friends in the pool messing around. I just screamed my head off on them telling them to get out. My husband tried to get involved but I told him off and had all of his friends leave. He blew up at me for acting like a lunatic and said that I was being controlling and shameless.
I said I already told him to let the kids play in the pool yet he ignored my request. He yelled at me saying just because I paid to fix the pool doesn’t mean I own it. He then went back inside and started calling his friends one by one to apologize “on my behalf” since he said I was too shameless to do it myself. He then left the house and hasn’t been back yet. What should I do? Did I go too far here? Do any other husbands do this?
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