When a first date goes well, it might feel like a miracle, as both parties leave home on cloud nine, feeling hopeful and energised by the evening. A wonderful first date is not always indicative of a long-term relationship, but it can provide some insight into the potential couple’s future. Especially if things go wrong. A lady in this story described her experience with a Tinder date that looked to be going well until the end of the night, when her date finally revealed his true colours. The woman was perplexed by the scenario and wanted to know whether she was right or wrong in her decision. So read the narrative below and do share your opinions.
I (22F) recently went out on a date with a guy (25M) that I met on Tinder. We never met before our date, but we texted for about a week prior, and I thought he was a really nice guy. Our date went well; he was a little pompous, and a little overly-flirty, but a nice guy nonetheless. We live in a college town, and the restaurant we went to was walking distance to my apartment, so he offered to walk me home after. I thought this was such a green flag, and really appreciated his offer as it was late and getting dark outside.
I accept his offer, he walks me home, and I tell him how much I appreciate it—I even try to set up another date on the spot. He then offers to come inside and show me a few local bars he knows of (I thought this was weird because he knows I’m a local) so I tell him we could get together in the morning for coffee so he can show me, my treat. He tries pretty hard to convince me that it’s still early and we can plan it really quickly, but I tell him I want to work on a few homework assignments.
He accepts this, but then asks to come in and use my bathroom, which kind of made my heart sink. I tell him he can use my leasing office restroom which is right inside the lobby of my apartment, and he became noticeably irritated. I can’t remember exactly what he said, but it was something along the lines of “I didn’t realize you were such an uptight b****. I’ll use the 7/11 bathroom.” And he walked away! I felt horrible, am I wrong?
A pretty important detail-I had a bad experience with bringing a guy I didn’t know that well over to my apartment last year, and I make it a point not to do it anymore. This is something that, unfortunately, is no longer in my comfort zone as a woman living alone.
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