One of life’s most significant blessings is the ability to love passionately, and the death of a loved one is one of life’s most terrible tragedies. In this story a girl lost her mom due to cancer and requested her friend to cut her hair since her friend’s hair reminded her of her mom. Read the story to know what happened and let us know what are your thoughts on this.
So for context, I have hair that is significantly longer than the average person. I get compliments about it all the time and even though it’s a hassle looking after it, I really do like it. My friend, who we’ll call Kate, lost her mother to cancer before we met. I don’t know the full story but apparently she used to have hair as long as mine until she shaved it all off.
Kate and I haven’t been friends for long but I really thought things were good between us until Kate pulled me aside one day to ask me for a favour. I asked her what favour it was and she said she wanted me to cut my hair to at least just past my shoulders because it looked so much like her moms. I thought she was just making a really bad joke but it turned out she genuinely wanted me to do that. She said it was bringing back her trauma to see my hair and that she didn’t know if she could keep being friends with me, as well as the fact that she really only asked because we were such close friends. She said she wanted to ask from the moment our friendship began but wanted to wait since it would be weird if she asked then.
I told her that I was sorry but that I wouldn’t be doing that. I love my hair. Here’s where I might be TA. I told her a few reasons as to why I loved having long hair and one of them was about how much I resembled my mother. Immediately I felt bad because of the awkward timing of the comment and tried to tell her that I wasn’t making fun of her for not having a mom or anything but this seemed to make her more mad. She started screaming and crying about how she thought she could trust me and how awful I was for gloating at the fact that my mother is still alive.
I tried diffusing the situation but it clearly wasn’t going to work out so I just ran out. Recently I’ve been getting calls and texts from our friends about how disgusting I am and it turns out Kate told them that I keep reminding her of her mom and even once said I look more like Kate’s moms daughter than Kate. I’ve tried explaining the truth and most of my friends have sided with me but a few don’t believe me and are saying I’m a b****h and that I should just cut my hair anyway, along with a comment or two about how hopefully I get to experience not having a mother soon.