Source: Reddit
When I (28f) was 18, I had to give birth to my daughter Farrah (no choice for me). I wanted to give her up for adoption but Dave, her dad, was able to take her. In exchange for giving him full custody, we settled on me not paying any child support. I did not give up my parental rights. I thought I did what was best for me at the time. It let me focus on getting my degree, have fun and start my own business, which has become wildly successful. When not studying or working or clubbing, however, I was very depressed and wound up torpedoing every relationship I was in and it’s all because I regretted my decision.
Last year, my dad died and I inherited almost everything. This has pushed my personal wealth into eight figures when you add up property and stuff. It just made me more depressed cause I never got to fix things with my dad and it’s like I have all of this but for what? So, I finally decided to be brave and reach out to Dave cause maybe if I could have Farrah in my life, I could be happy.
Dave setup a meeting last year and as soon as Farrah saw me she rushed at me and hugged me and called me mommy. It was amazing and I honestly started crying. It has been so great since then getting to know her, pick her up from school, hear about her day, help with homework, get to hug and kiss her. Even getting yelled at by her when she’s upset is something I wouldn’t give up. And I hate that I wasn’t part of this before. It’s like I have a real purpose and all this money finally means something.
I don’t try and flex my wealth on Dave or his wife Lydia but they’ve made remarks about how cool Farrah thinks my car is or how I have a cleaning lady. But I never bought anything for her without clearing with them first. In exchange for visitation, I have paid back child support and am paying it now to have her in my life. We currently have a meeting to restructure the custody agreement so I can get her on weekends.
Yesterday was Farrah’s birthday and the party is on Saturday but as a surprise I got her one of those toy jeeps that kids ride around the block in and a full street hockey setup and those are the first gifts I didn’t clear. She loved those so much but Dave and Lydia got upset but I was like if we’re restructuring the custody, I shouldn’t need approval to buy things anymore. Lydia point out how expensive it all was and called me an a**h**e for using money to win Farrah’s love instead of putting in hard work like she has. What she said has been troubling me and maybe I have been like that so I’m here to get an anonymous judgment.
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