The narrator’s mom is consistently late to family events and it has become a source of frustration for the family. On the narrator’s birthday, they told their mom the lunch was an hour earlier than it actually was, but their mom still arrived two and a half hours late. When the narrator left early for plans with their boyfriend, their mom accused them of being rude and lying about the lunch start time.
My (22F) mom (mid 40′ F) is one of those people who is always late to everything. I’m talking about family get-togethers, birthdays, graduations, wedding’s, you name it she’s showing up late. At first growing up I just thought it was because she’s bad with time, but as I’ve gotten older I genuinely believe she likes making an entrance.
I personally find it 1) rude and 2) embarrassing because it’s not like it happens once in a while, it literally happens at every single function she is invited to that has a set time. Many family members have complained about this, nothing ever changes. It’s gotten to the point that whenever my grandma has family lunches or dinners she’ll tell me mom it starts an hour earlier that it actually does, so she’ll be there on time. (My mom doesn’t know that my grandma does this, it’s a joke between grandma and I).
This past weekend was my 22nd birthday. My grandma wanted to make lunch for me at her place with our immediate family. The lunch was to start at 2pm, but we told my mom it was 1pm.
I had plans later that evening to go out for dinner with my boyfriend, so I wanted to leave my grandma’s house at around 5 the absolute latest because I needed to go home and get all ready.
Well of course my mom was late. We called her at like 2:30PM to see where she was because you know, it’s her daughters birthday. She had just left her house at 2:30PM and still had to pick up her bf on her way to my grandma’s (30-35 mins away) so none of us were expecting her to arrive until like 3:30PM.
She finally arrives 2 and a half hours late from the time we told her, and makes her little entrance. We questioned her about it. She tells us she thought the lunch started at 2? We asked her where she heard this from, she said my aunt (who was present at the lunch) told her.
We questioned my aunt and she said she felt bad “lying to my mom”.
Everyone is pretty annoyed, but we all move on. Fast forward an hour later (4:30PM) I have to start leaving.
My mom starts getting all annoyed with me that I’m leaving “so soon” and that she barely got to see me for my birthday. I told her that my life doesn’t revolve around her, and that she should’ve been there sooner.
She started giving me attitude and listing all these excuses as to why she’s late. I couldn’t be bothered to hear them and left.
Later that night she messaged me saying that I was acting like an AH towards her and it was rude of me to lie to her about the time the lunch started. My mom and my aunt think I’m an AH for lying to her. My grandma doesn’t think it’s a big deal and they’re overacting. I came here for some outside opinions.
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