I f31 have been with my boyfriend m37 for 8 months. He has 3 kids and is a single dad. We’re on pretty good terms regarding almost everything. When it comes to money and spending, we’d take turns to invite each other out weekly (we don’t live together obviously).
Several times he had me pay for his kids’ purchases. I didn’t make a big issue out of it for the sole reason that those purchases were relatively small, all I had to pay was $30-60.
The other day, he called me while I was at work and sounded like he was in a hurry. He said he just found the gaming device he’s been looking for for so long and wanted to buy it for his oldest son. I asked what this has to do with me, and he told me he was short on money and needed $300. He asked me to lend him the $300 and I hesitated but agreed. He asked for my bank account info so he could pull the money but I refused and told him to wait for me till I got there. He insisted and said he’d handle it, all I had to do was just send him my bank account info after I ended the call with him. His insistence made me uncomfortable so I still said no and told him to either wait or I won’t pay. He got mad at me saying he didn’t get why I was acting like this. He got so loud I had to hang up.
I found him sitting outside after I went home. He was waiting for me and was extremely upset. He asked why I didn’t just send him the account info so he could pull the money we agreed on. I told him I don’t feel comfortable letting anyone have my personal info especially when it comes to finances. He got offended and said “I’M NOT JUST ANYONE, I’M YOUR F’ING PARTNER!!” Then went on a rant about how he ended up not paying for the gaming device after looking for it for so long and now his kid is mad at him and it’s my fault.
We had a fight then he left and told me I’d better have an apology for him AND his son next time I call his phone. …..I haven’t call yet but I feel like I acted stupidly and irrationally. I think I should’ve just given him the info he asked for?.,,I don’t know if I made the right decision.
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